In some research, researchers find out that people who remain married to one partner are statistically happier and live longer and lead a happy married life, than their non-married counterparts. If you want to live a happy married life, then you have to work on keeping your romance alive and on continue to grow. I know always it is not easy but you can make your marriage thrive if you and your partner are willing to put in the effort. And to make it you should know what happy marriages should avoid and also what needs to be encouraged to make marriages healthier and happier. Of course everyone knows that no marriage is perfect, but many are happy. Happy marriages have difficulties, but there is an abiding sense of ‘us’, not just ‘you and me’. So what takes to make your marriage life happy? Follow these strategies both of you. These will helps both of you to live a happy married life. Who knows, maybe one day you will be telling me fifty years hence of all the health, psychological benefits and happiness you have enjoyed.
Respect your spouse
The most important strategy is respect. If both of you don’t respect each other, then you will not live a happy married life by following the other strategies. So at first you should respect your partner. And also respect her/his opinions. Otherwise if you treat your spouse like his/her opinions don’t really matter, then you are bound to have an imbalance in your marriage. Give him/her a basic respect that he /she deserve. If you are having a bad day and snap at him/her, make sure you apologize. You should also respect your spouse’s privacy.
Maintain strong communication
Strong communication is the key to make your marriage to be a happy one. Both of you should talk to each other about your thoughts, expectation, dreams, problems and secret. And doing this daily helps you to foster communication and maintain trust between partners to keep your marriage healthy and strong. And to do it you should have to be aware of your partner’s thoughts and moods even before you have a conversation. You should be able to read your partner’s body language and expression, to tell whether something is wrong and to feel comfortable bringing it up.
Don’t break marital confidence during an argument
If your partner trusted you with something very private and important, then you should not undermine that trust anymore. You should not share the secret of your spouse with someone else. And if the secret is something painful and personal, then don’t use it as ammunition during an argument. Be considerate of the fact that your partner trusted you with important information and make sure to honor that trust.
Forgive your partner as much as you can
Practice letting go as much as you can. Because sometimes the best way to address a problem is to just let it go or walk away from it. Forgive more. Forget more. And bite your tongue until the tip bleeds. And remind yourself why you married this person. Stay silence, it will help you to pass the problems. But don’t permit your silent to move your brain in a negative thought. So forgive your spouse for her/his mistake it will helps you to remove the cancer of bitterness, anger and revenge. To get more help about this issue you can also the book on forgiveness called unconditional: The Call of Jesus to Radical Forgiveness by Brain Zahnd.
Do complement rather than do criticize
Partners who criticize one another they actually damage their relationship beyond repair. And this does not mean that you should never complain if your partner upsets you. If your partner upsets you should give him/her a complement rather than criticize him/her. Because criticism is much more damaging than a simple complaint.
People who lead happy married life, feel appreciated, loved and respected. Remind your spouse of their talents, strengths and what you love and like about them much more. No one likes to feel they are under constant attack.
Give priority to your spouse
Both of you should remember that you and Your spouse decided to get married because both of you wanted to be a priority in each other’s lives. Both of you should make sure to honor that decision and to make all of your big decisions with your partner in mind and make sure that you try to do what’s best for both of you. Don’t take sides against your spouse, if your family or friends are not getting along with your spouse and make sure that you are considerate of your spouse’s feelings and that you give him the love and support that he deserve.
I always do this when I face this type of situation in my married life. It also helps to make your relationship with your spouse more stronger. If he or she done any wrong thing then give him/her a chance personally to explain herself or himself. Don’t shout out in front of the whole family.
Take the time to listen
It is the best way to be considerate toward your spouse. Make an effort to really hear him out and to care about what he is telling you. When you are having a real conversation, put away your phone, make eye contact and be considerate enough to really listen. And you can ask your partner questions to show that you really do care. You don’t want him to feel like he is boring you.
Share everything about each other
Everybody has past or some secret thing. Life partner is a person who is our friend for the rest of our life. We should not hide any secret from our spouse. If you have the secret and you think that your partner can not take it normally, you should take time. And you need to wait for the right time to say. But you should tell him/her because if you hide it, if one day your spouse hears about the fact of your secret from someone else, it will hurt him/her more than today. You will lose her/his trust forever. So don’t be afraid, keep trust on your spouse, he/she is the only person of your life who have the ability to understand your word. So don’t waste times to tell him/her as soon as possible.
Start your day with warm kiss or a hug
If you start your day with warm kiss or a hug, it helps you to lead you to feel more loving toward each other for the rest of the day. Just spending a few minutes hugging, kissing or cuddling your partner can help you to start the day off on the right foot. Because kiss and hug can spark the passion in your relationship.
Say thank you for the little things
Keep score of all the positive things your partner does in a day and then thanks them. And this little world will change your whole relationship status. It will help you to forget the negative past of your partner. So say thanks to your partner whatever he/she does for your happiness.
Touch each other whenever you got chance
Physical connection can help to keep your relationship strong and can make you feel close to each other. If you grow distance or cold and don’t even sit near your partner when you are on the couch together, your relationship will grow distance too. Not everyone likes to be touched the same amount, especially not in the public. So make sure you give your partner reassuring touches at the right moment as much as you can.
Do little things that make both of you smile and feel loved
You can leave a sweet note on the mirror before you leave for work. You can also bring some flower for your wife at the time of coming home. You should also watch movie together. If both of you like to take bath together you should do this. Sometime you should feeding each other, it would make happy both of you.
Don’t forget to say I Love You
These three sacred worlds is more important for our happy life. Everyone wants to or expect to hear “I Love You”from the person whom they loved so much. Make an effort to tell your partner how much you love him or her at least once or twice a day. And take the time to let your partner know that how much he/she really means to you, in person. So keep practice to say these three little words that can helps you to make a big difference in your relationship.
Make time for each other
As your relationship progresses, you will find that there will be more and more obligations that will keep you having time alone. Both of you should make sure to get that time alone every week. If you are so busy with your important work then make sure that you can spend time alone with your spouse at least ones in a month. You should also spend time together with your friends or family members. And you can also attain different party together. Sometimes you can walk together in the evening or morning. And you also walk together during family outing or spend some time alone at a party.
Let your partner know how much you appreciate him
You should appreciate your spouse for the little everyday things he does, like doing the washing up or making the bed. And you can also respond by doing things that make your partner appreciate you in return. You can also write him/her a love note thanking him/her for all of the things he/she done for you, these are helpful for happy married life.
Surprise each other
Both of you can surprise each other with little gift or tokens of appreciation. And this practice will make the moment even more special. Gifts need not be more expensive, you can gift small things whatever it is expensive or cheap, and that does not matter. You can also surprise your partner by planning the most amazing birthday party, anniversary party, get-together party, success party, achievement party and welcome party. You can also surprise him/her by cooking her/his favorite dish.
Helps your spouse out when he/she needs it
If your spouse has had a busy week, then you should be understanding that and spend more time of doing his/her work. Sometimes your spouse may even deny that he/she needs extra help, but you should help him/her to lead happy married life.
Be there for the good times and bad time
When your spouse is going through a rough patch you should be there for him/her. You can’t expect your spouse to be in a good mood all the time and you should make sure to be supportive when he needs you. Never be angry at the same time. If your partner is angry then you should try to maintain calm and put forth your point when he/she is in better mood. It is one of the important rules of happy married life.
Go on a holiday together
Whenever both of you got time make a plan for holiday. You can plan your holiday along or with family both holiday will improve your relation. But make sure at least twice a year you can go for holiday along with your spouse. The honeymoon period in most marriages has a shelf life. But you can bring back those butterfly feelings of excitement and anticipation through his holiday plan. And holidays will keep your marriage fresh.
When we enter into or marriage life we think we have entered into a realm where we will have a life of everlasting joy. But sometimes things just don’t work out despite our best effort, even when we desperately want them to work. But life is the combination of good time and bad time, if you properly handle your bad time, the percentage of good time in your life will be increase for your upcoming days. So follow these strategies, these will help both of you to make your married life happy for the rest of your life. Don’t waste time, focus on your relationship. Do everything’s that helps you to become old with your partner. Follow all of these to lead happy married life.
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